The Art of Homemaking is being Lost

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Where do I begin on this? I am going to just dive in, and hope it makes sense. 

While we, as a society and culture have come a long way in gender equality, there is still a ways to go in closing the pay gap and all that goes along with equal opportunities for women. I am not against equal opportunities for women where we can hold our own with men. 

That being said, the Art of Homemaking has been lost in the process. Growing up, even on the subconscious level, I was taught I could do anything I wanted to, except be a homemaker, that I needed a career and making something of myself besides ever being a stay at home wife and mother, even if that it what I wanted to do. While I want to be able to have my own source of income, and contribute financially or take care of myself financially. 

I grew up learning how to cook from scratch, doing some canning, and preserving of food, as well as knitting from the time I was 10. As a teen, I found it odd that my friends and cohort were off playing video games or other things when I was learning how to cook, because I wanted to. Not all that long ago (2 or 3 generations before me), grew up learning how to cook, keep house and so much more. 

My main point, that I am trying to make is while not all women are supposed to be stay at home wives, mothers or be able to cook a traditional Sunday meal or holiday dinner from scratch on their own (we all aren’t Donna Reed, Julia Child, or Paula Dean), or be the stay at home types, that’s okay. But don’t demonize it for those women who want that kind of lifestyle, and telling young women and girls that they can do anything they want except being a stay at home wife and mother, or really learning any kind of domestic arts is doing them just as much a disservice as telling them they can’t do anything else they set their mind to. 

As I have gotten older, I have come to realize the disinterest I have in being a part of the rat race that is Corporate America. Yes I currently have a job, and I spend 40 hours a week doing work for a large corporation, because I need an income in order to pay the bills I have. 

What have I learned in the almost 11 years that I have been out of high school? I have learned that I love history, especially women’s history and history of the American West. Put the two of them together (especially they way of life women had on the frontier, and living off the land) back in the 19th and early 20th centuries. While I know a lot has changed and improved since then (like having indoor plumbing, electricity, and internet), but some things haven’t, like the need for food, heat, and shelter haven’t. 

I am the kind of girl who prefer making things with my own hands, being outdoors and going on adventures. I also enjoys cooking from scratch and having a home of my own to make homey and welcoming. 

Off Grid living and Homesteading have begun to make a resurgence. While I am not one who wants to go the whole 9 yards, I am one who wants to find a balance between living 100% on grid, buying all my food from the mainstream big box grocery store, and not thinking about where my food comes from and what all the processed food is doing to my body. 

Having spent most of my life living in the Pacific Northwest these issues have been around my whole life. Now that I am an adult and have food intolerances and sensitivities, and really just want to know where my food comes from and how it was raised, as well as wanting to use more renewable resources, living a semi off grid life with enough land to grow a garden. I also want to continue being close enough to be able to purchase locally what I can’t grow or it wouldn’t be feasible or cost effective to grow myself, in order to make jams and can others for later. 

Trying to figure out how to turn my passion for homemaking and living a more natural life, while still earning an income to support myself is what I am still trying to figure out. 

Eating Cleaner

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It’s still January, and I am really working eating healthier. These past few months, I have been not eating as healthy as I know I should and I have been feeling that. I have also been noticing how expensive it is trying to eat dairy free and gluten free while not eating healthy. I realize that fruit, vegetables and lean proteins are not the cheapest. I have been figuring out where I can shop locally to get the best prices for what I want to eat.

I have also noticed that when I am not eating as healthy as I know I should be, that by mid morning and mid afternoon, I feel like I haven’t eaten all day. This weekend though, I have been eating healthy, and I have been staying fuller, longer. I am also figuring out what types of healthy snacks I like to eat in between meals, that are good for me. 

This past Friday I did my grocery shopping, most of which was done at Trader Joe’s. I don’t do my whole shopping there just because of the limited selection of dairy free staples that I am used to. But in terms of produce, and snacks they have an amazing selection. 

I had spent a little over $52 at Trader Joe’s for this week, and this is all that I got for that money:

From Safeway I spent about $25 and this is what I got:


I have not been a fan of red meat for a while, and I can’t eat dairy, which helps with clean eating. I am definitely trying to eat more fish – especially fish that comes from the Pacific Northwest (Oregon/Washington) or Alaska, and white meat, and do more vegan complete protein that isn’t tofu to change things up. 

Part of my goal is to eat more local foods and food that grows naturally in this part of the country. Because this part of the country is so temperate, and we have plenty of natural waterways, that fish, berries, nuts and such have been available here for quite a while. 

Stay tuned for more clean eating grocery hauls! 

Christmas!

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Merry Christmas (it is still Christmas here on the West Coast) and Happy Boxing Day to all of those for whom Boxing Day is a holiday! I get Boxing Day off this year, beings that Christmas fell on a Sunday. 

As 2017 quickly approaches I have been setting goals that I hope to maintain. One of which is to actually eat healthier, stick to a clean eating, dairy free, gluten Free, egg free diet while eating more fish and white meat. A lot of that has to do with my food sensitivities. 

I am definitely needing to incorporate more fruits, vegetables, nuts, gluten Free whole grains and fish into my diet. I am by no means going vegan, as I like to eat chicken and fish, as well as honey. I seriously need to do more research on how the First Nations people of this area ate. Beings that waterways and rain and plentiful in this area, in this part of the state they were more settled / less nomadic as the food supply was consistent and there was always something around to eat. 

I have been working on preparing for when I am able to have my own place, and am able to do more actual homemaking. Homemaking and urban homesteading are two things I am passionate about, and want to live, and share. Living a more natural, healthy life while not completely shunning modern society is my goal. 

Food Sensitivities update

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It is hard to believe that I have been dealing with my food intolerances and sensitivities for 5 years now. 

In the past 5 years I have gone Dairy Free, Gluten Free, Coffee Free and most recently almost completely egg free. About the only thing with eggs in it that doesn’t seem to bother me is if they are in baked goods and mayonnaise. I also recently figured out how sensitive I am to Gluten. 

I know I can’t have any dairy or coffee. Since I have come to figure out that I am also sensitive to gluten and eggs I have had to figure out how sensitive I am to these things. I am definitely not celiac. I have learned that Gluten causes inflammation and I have definitely noticed more inflammation and acne when I regularly eat gluten. 

The life I am Working For

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I have been writing posts for a while about how I want to live a more natural lifestyle, live Semi off grid, grow my own food and know where it comes from and all that Jazz. 

All of that and then some is the life I am working for. Growing up I was just another city kid who didn’t bat an eye at the food at the grocery store, or question how it was raised and cared for. I didn’t question what I put in my body until College, even then it Wasn’t like it is now. Now that I have food intolerances and sensitivities. The whole having to reword my brain around food has made me want to learn more about how to live a healthier life, and know what I am putting in my body, and where it comes from. 

I have loved fishing and being outdoors since I was little, I have always lived that kind of thing. After visiting my cousin in Canada 4 years ago, who was raising chickens for food at the time, was another bite from the homestead bug. 

I also grew up helping my mom can fruit, and pickles. So that is a skill I learned young.

All of this from growing as much of my own fruit and vegetables as I can myself, and what I can’t grow (or isn’t feasible or realistic to grow myself), purchase from local farms. I want to be able to can in the summer and early fall, as well as put chicken that I raised, and fish that I caught in the freezer for winter, so that the only food I need to purchase from the store is dried fruit, nuts, coconut almond milk, oatmeal, flour, and items I can’t get from my backyard or local farms. 

I also want a couple of goats for the fun of it. 

I am wondering is some of my issues are related to the quality and types of food that I am eating and is available to me, and maybe if I had eggs and fish that I gathered or caught myself that were raised in the wild or on a natural diet and had part of their coop outside where they could get fresh air and sunshine if I might have different results, and feel better over all. 

What the ItWorks Reps don’t tell you

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I decided to completely quit itworks about 2.5 months ago, and the first time I “quit”, my uplines were all trying to talk me into staying, which I did for another couple of weeks, but I really did quit for good then. 

I know I have talked about my reasons for quitting in another post, and how the products were making me sick and not working and all that good stuff. 

I had tried many of the products, including a couple wraps, defining gel, greens, greens chews, the complete nutrition pack (vitamins), fat fighters, thermofit, relief, probiotic, hair skin and nails, and the face peel. Of the pills, I was using many at the same time, so there was upwards of 12+ pills in addition to greens and chews that I was taking any given day. Some of the pills themselves caused an upset stomach and sessions in the bathroom, and when combined with the pills hole concoction only made it worse. Even when I was drinking enough water, greens themselves when I was taking them daily caused constipation, fun right? 

Hair skin and nails worked while I was on it, but after I quit taking it, my hair was falling out, and fast. For a long while after I quit, my hair was coming out in clumps. My hair has now thinned out in spots to the point it is noticeable. 

Most distributors aren’t straight up honest about the 3 month commitment or $50 membership fee to get the distributor price for the products. I have also found most Itworks reps to be pushy and there are too many that are back stabbing as well.  One thing I had kept hearing was “it typically takes 8 to 12 follow ups to get someone to sign up”, and that just didn’t sit right with me. When someone doesn’t want something, No means NO. 

While I was an Loyal Customer, before becoming a Distributor I had this one chick on Instagram randomly picked me and began constantly bugging me to become a distributor on her team, and I kept telling her no. After I had become a distributor I also had other distributors harassing me to join, after I had already joined, and I was like what the heck? I have my itworks profile private for a reason, and what gives them the audacity to cold message me, basically demanding I become a distributor on their team, when they can’t even see my posts?” The whole cold messaging someone when they either haven’t accepted, have rejected or just straight up messaging someone without sending a follow request is tacky, rude, and harassment. This tactic only makes people not want to join your company that much more. 

I had also heard “everyone needs it, they just don’t know it yet”, that is also a bunch of bologna. I was fed a bunch of lies, and was impressed upon to sell, sell, sell, and post 6 times a day on Instagram and Facebook. Some of you may already know how annoying it is to constantly be seeing people push the products they sell, and you aren’t interested, yeah itworks is one of those.

The “friends” I made while doing itworks, once I moved on, fell off the face of the planet, which I had expected. I knew they wouldn’t stick around or be supportive of what I was doing once I was no longer participating in the business, that is how clicks go. They were totally nice and all, but it was time for me to move on. 

Itworks has gotten itself a bad name, at the hands of its distributors. But it’s not the only.

I couldn’t honestly promote a line of products that didn’t work for me, and had such bad side effects, and honestly aren’t that good for you. I would just as soon eat a balanced and healthy diet, and exercise. 

Sticking to what is right for me

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I am still very much in the middle of my journey of transitioning from products that are chalked full of man made chemicals and synthetics that research is now showing is linked to many diseases that have exploded since the greatest generation was my age to using more natural products with natural ingredients that are actually good for your skin. Besides the fact that all these chemicals and such gross me out, I have always had super sensitive skin and would break out with rashes if the wrong kind of laundry detergent is used. I always use free and clear laundry detergent when I do laundry. 

Knowing how sensitive my skin is, not only do I worry about all the chemicals, I also worry about how strong the scent is, and how the chemical make up will react when it comes into contact with my body chemistry. 

I have struggled for years to find a skin care routine and a deodorant that do their jobs, are fairly natural and work with my body chemistry. Since I found perfectly posh, my skin has been doing so much better. I am also loving how well the unscented Native deodorant is working for me. I have had so many drug store and natural brand deodorants cause uncomfortable rashes under my arms, which were only made worse by shaving. TMI and as gross as it may be for many of you, I stopped shaving my arm pits and use native deodorant.

This whole adjustment to do what is best for my body certainly hasn’t been easy when it has been a lot of going against the cultural and societal norms, yet I am still too normal or mainstream to really be a part of any subculture. I am somewhere in the middle. Finding that middle ground that works for me, and being at odds with both sides has been challenging. It really comes down to being OK with who I am, and embracing that individuality, and sticking to my guns.

I, personally have been met with my fair share of resistance, skepticism, ignorance, and just flat out belief that I am wrong just because what is best for me, and my well being goes against cultural norms. I have spent as much time as I can, educating myself so I can give facts in support of why what I am doing, is the best option for me. 

I am by no means an expert, but I have had to learn all that I know about dairy free, gluten free, natural ingredients, natural lifestyle, fewer chemicals all on my own, as I didn’t have anyone to guide me, or give me tips and tricks. 

There is still a lot I am still learning. If there are any topics along the lines of dairy free, generally gluten free (going completely gluten free is still something I am working on), transitioning to natural skin care products, no red meat, limiting use of eggs to baked goods, or some other topic within reason you want me to post about, leave me a comment below.