Dining Out with Friends

Hey Fellow Foodies!

This evening I was able to go out with friends after church, and we had gone to Red Robin. Not being able to eat Dairy and Gluten does put a damper on things, but all is not lost when restaurants are willing/able to make their menu items without certain things so people like me can still enjoy their food. It is nice to be able to go out with friends and enjoy normal food.

If any of you who have food intolerances have a favorite restaurant where you can get decent food that is also without what you are intolerant to, I would love to hear about it. I love traveling, so having feedback on what other cities have would be great!

The Social Roles of Food

Hey Everyone!

One of the big things I have to deal with, with Dairy and Gluten intolerances is that there are situations, and times that I excuse myself from, even though I would love to spend time with the people in the group, because they are heading to a restaurant where about the only thing I could order would be water or another beverage. That is because most if not all the food served at said restaurant contains one or both of the foods that I am intolerant of.

I had found this article, and while it talks solely about children with food allergies, the concept can be applied to anyone with a food allergy or food intolerance (Intolerances and allergies are different but the fact that people with both have to avoid foods containing what they are allergic/intolerant to, for this discussion has the same effect).

Not being able to go with the group, or order something, or eat what was brought to the gathering/function raises questions, weird looks from those who don’t understand or don’t care, and that you are different from the group or not part of the group because you can’t join in the eating of the food.

Trust me, it’s not because we don’t want to join in, its that if we do we will be sick. Just because someone else is also *insert intolerance/allergy here* but can eat *insert food here* because *insert reasoning here* doesn’t mean that I can. Everyone’s body is different and reacts to different foods differently. They may not have as severe as intolerance or allergy, or I may not have as severe intolerance as the next person, but don’t compare them to me or me to them.

In the two and a half years I have dealt with having food intolerances, I have come across plenty of negative responses, and more times than I would have liked feel like I don’t fit in, don’t belong, something less than human or some kind of monster just because I can’t eat what everyone else is eating, and have to be OCD about shared cookware, utensils and about double washing/ running through the dishwasher said items before I can use them. It is more frustrating and more work for me than it is for those who don’t have food allergies and intolerances, mess with the system I have going.

I know I always appreciate when I am given input in what is made, or where the group goes for food, so that I can still be part of the group and have fun, but not have an upset stomach for the next week afterward (and not because the food in and of itself was bad). It is and can be socially isolating/culturally rude because of a food intolerance, but believe me I didn’t ask for them, they “chose” me.

Avoiding Cross Contamination

Hey Everyone!

I wanted to hit a bit on what it is like to be the only one in the family or among roommates with a food intolerance, and trying to get those around you to understand what it all entails, and what little things they do or don’t do that can help you or make you sick.

I have one person who I am around who says that they try to be careful, but this person really doesn’t careless that their actions are contributing to making me sick. I have tried to get this person to understand that they make me sick, and I have talked until I am blue in the face, and yet they only get mad at me when I ask them to wash their hands or to point out the potential cross contamination of they don’t.

This has contributed to me being a much pickier eater than I would like to be, and I have also become OCD about hand washing in the kitchen. I am sick and tired of being sick from cross contamination because of the lack of care being taken.

It also hurts me, to have those closest to me have a disregard to something I have no control over, and them not caring that they make me sick, and it is driving a wedge between me and this person. any thoughts? I am not this person’s mother, and it is driving me crazy having to baby sit a grown adult in the kitchen just so I don’t get sick.

Especially if you live with someone who has a food intolerance (and is general good knowledge if you are often around someone with food intolerances), wash your hands a lot while in the kitchen especially after handling something containing Gluten/Dairy/other allergen (and CHECK LABELS so you know when you need to wash and when you don’t). Be sure to double wash or run through the dishwasher utensils, serving wear, plates, cups, bowls etc that have come into contact with anything containing the food sensitivity item. While this is inconvenient for you, and means a few extra dishes or minutes washing dishes, it will save the person a lot of pain, discomfort and time spent in the bathroom as well as a couple days to a couple weeks+ to get it all out of their system which is more inconvenient than those few minutes for you.

Coming Home to Eat

Hey Everyone!

This past week and a half has been pretty busy. Fortunately I don’t live very far from where I have spent most of the past week and half, making it easy to come back and grab food and then go back. Beings that the food that they have there, I don’t want to take a chance with.

Coming “home” is also less expensive than eating out pretty much every meal, and then I knew what was in what I was eating.

When I am going out, I always make sure I eat before I eat to tide myself over until I come home again, or go somewhere where I can get Gluten Free and Dairy Free food.

Like I mentioned earlier, I am fortunate that I live only about 5 minutes from where I have spent most of the past week and a half. It is easy enough to run home for a short time, get food and then go back over without really having to waste a trip.